“First we have a relationship, then we have an educational method.” —Karen Andreola
And so it is.
As homeschool moms, we sometimes get involved trying to figure out what philosophy to follow, what type of teaching we should do, or what curriculum we should select. We eagerly read books, buy curriculum, and “try on” educational methods as if we were shoe shopping. But no “shoe” fits until we have a relationship. No method can make up for a strained relationship with your child, your student. Until the relationship is working right, the educational approach doesn’t really matter very much at all.
So, instead of focusing on what educational philosophy or curriculum you are going to use in your homeschool, think instead of how you are going to build your relationship with your child. Brainstorm ways to reach each child’s heart. Co-operation and a desire to follow you will come naturally when the relationship is strong! As you bind your children’s heart to you in love, you will be creating the very best environment for learning, no matter what method you end up choosing.
Here’s some ideas for knitting your hearts together:
*Listen and give eye contact when your child talks to you.
*Take a walk and hold hands.
*Give a sincere compliment.
*Smile.
*Lay on her bed and talk while she is getting ready to go somewhere.
*Look at what he has put on his bedroom walls and comment positively.
*Say “yes” whenever you possibly can.
*Give her a shoulder rub when you are sitting together.
*Ask him to cook with you, and let him choose the meal.
*Sit on the floor next to your child while she is building with legos or playing dolls.
*Tell another how capable (or kind, or helpful, etc.) he is—loud enough so he can overhear you.
*Resist the urge to set something straight (his hair, his room, the way he set the table, etc.)
*Actively encourage your child in following his special interest by getting him the necessary supplies, mentor, books, and opportunities.
(This, more than anything else I have done, has spoken “love” to my eager, curious sons.)
*Read aloud together.
*Remember your child is young and trying to figure out life. Be forgiving.
*Go swimming together.
(Sometimes we moms are a bit reluctant to get our hair wet or to put on a swimsuit, but it really is a playful, bonding time.)
*Don’t criticize ever. If he needs instruction, do it privately and kindly, reassuring him of your love.
*Make something together—a candle, a skirt, a clay sculpture, a pizza . . .
*Listen.
*Listen.
*Listen.
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